A woman sought support from the online community after a heated argument with her fiancé, as she navigated the challenges of her long-term relationship.

She found herself pondering the complicated nature of their partnership after the discussion turned to financial matters.

She decided to share her experience on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A*****e’ thread, in a candid post.

The 32-year-old woman referred to as Original Poster (OP), shared the news of her engagement to her 35-year-old partner after a five-year journey together. Following the proposal, the couple decided on a wedding date in May 2025.

Unfortunately, the OP’s her grandmother passed away shortly after the engagement.

The OP shares that her grandparents had enjoyed a great deal of success throughout their careers, holding high-paying jobs for the majority of their lives. So, as expected, OP received a «very generous» amount of money. However, this is where the problem started.

Upon receiving the news, I shared it with my fiancé, and to my surprise, he was filled with an overwhelming sense of joy. I went along with it and brushed it aside until later in the day when I overheard him on the game with his friends saying, ‘I can pay off my credit card with that money, mate!’ “We can finally go on that boys holiday we’ve been planning, huh?» and laughing,» OP wrote in her post.

She went on to say, «I entered the room and asked, ‘What money?’ He gave me a strange look and replied, «From your nan, babe.»

The woman expressed her strong disapproval, stating that he would not be making any payments without her permission and certainly not using the money for a boys’ holiday.

«It’s not your money to have, it’s written to me from MY nanna, it’s not for you,» OP said she told her fiancé.

Eventually, things escalated into a heated argument, leading to OP feeling upset and leaving the room. Eventually, the fiancé finished his game and came out to the kitchen to scold her, saying: “We are getting married, you will become my financial BURDEN. I have a claim to any money you receive. It was really thoughtless of you to embarrass me in front of my friends and get their hopes up about a vacation.»

In her post, the woman described how she quietly left the house and sought refuge at her friend’s place. She ended by questioning if her behavior was inappropriate.

After sharing her thoughts, the woman was met with a wave of understanding and support from other internet users.

«Alright, it seems that he has made it clear that he views you as a burden and intends to use money that doesn’t belong to him on his friends. And he’s passionately expressing his frustration because you won’t align with his vision.» One person wrote, «You must be crazy if you actually marry him.»

«You really want to marry this guy?,» said a second. «There are two issues: 1. He believed he deserved the money. 2. He thought that he could spend it on something that didn’t involve you. Pt2. is the bigger problem.”

This user added their input: «Stop the wedding.» Do not marry this man. First, … oh my, he has outstanding credit card debt? Living beyond his means is a recurring pattern. Second… everything that belongs to him is his, and everything that belongs to you is also his? Oh dear, that’s not quite right. Third… the rage? Do you ever feel like you’re constantly being blamed for everything in your relationship? It’s frustrating when someone tries to make you feel like a burden, even when you know it’s not true. It’s important to recognize and address these patterns of entitlement and defensiveness in order to have a healthy and balanced relationship. This man displays all the typical signs of a narcissist.»

They went on, «Your grandparents’ last gift to you wasn’t just money; it was the knowledge of what kind of person this guy really is.» No character, abusive, entitled, parasitic. Run.»