They say revenge is a plate best served cold. However, the woman in today’s story had no time for such luxuries. After her husband ruined what should have been her special day, she resolved to make his day equally as unpleasant. She posted her question online, wondering if her actions had crossed a line.

We have two children, a 6-year-old boy and an 8-month-old girl. He excitedly informed me in advance that he had a whole weekend of surprises planned for Mother’s Day. It’s quite unusual, but there were times in the past when I found myself complaining and feeling hurt because he didn’t put in much effort for me on Mother’s Day. Meanwhile, I always went above and beyond for him on Father’s Day, and it made me feel unappreciated.

It seems like he finally grasped my perspective and was determined to make this year’s occasion extra memorable for me. I quite literally ONLY asked for a massage, and he repeatedly said that he couldn’t just give me a massage because it “wasn’t enough”. Well, I’m not quite sure. It’s clear that this man put in a lot of effort.

Anyway, on Friday, a group of people begins to arrive. He invited a good 10–15 people over. I think I knew 2 people. He affectionately referred to it as the “Mother’s Day bonfire”. It was quite an eventful evening, with a fire and all. However, I found myself tirelessly chasing after the kids throughout the entire time. I had my hands full with my 6-year-old and the baby, and even had to look after two other children because their parents weren’t keeping an eye on them. Surprisingly, not a single person bothered to acknowledge my efforts. It wasn’t until the end of the evening that my husband’s friend finally acknowledged me, informing me that he was taking my husband away for some four-wheeling fun.

I said my husband wasn’t going anywhere. I feel really upset right now because I had plans for this weekend, but instead I ended up taking care of someone else’s children. On top of that, nobody even bothered to talk to me, and now my husband is leaving.

I express my feelings of hurt the following morning. He acknowledges his mistake and offers a sincere apology, admitting that his judgment was clouded. Okay, I get it. It’s whatever. We didn’t do anything on Saturday because he spent half the day sleeping.

Yesterday, out of the blue, his boss gave him an unexpected wake-up call at 6 am, urgently requesting his presence at work due to a shortage of staff. Without hesitation, he agreed to go. So I expressed my disappointment and said, “But it’s Mother’s Day.” He apologizes, explaining that he doesn’t want to miss out on the chance to work more hours. I get that too. So, whatever.

When he arrives home at 5 pm, he immediately begins the task of getting the kids dressed and ready to go, giving me hope that we are about to embark on a long-awaited celebration. We decide to go for a walk (I thoroughly enjoy walking), but just 5 minutes into it, he starts complaining and insists on turning back due to the presence of black flies (even though they weren’t bothersome at all). Once again, I find myself feeling let down.

After we return home, he casually reclines on the couch and casually mentions, “By the way, your gift is in the truck.” As I descend, I discover a storage container priced at $5, perfect for storing sugar or flour. I do like stuff like this, but I’m so hurt at this point. I asked him if I could at least get a massage, and he says “I’m sorry babe, I’m just so tired” and fell asleep around 8 pm when he usually doesn’t even go to bed until midnight/1 am. I simply sat there, tears streaming down my face.

I decided to get rid of the three gifts I had purchased for Father’s Day. Personalized items that cost me more than I want to admit, but I don’t even care anymore. He discovered them in the trash this morning and inquired about their presence, covered in food.

I explained that they were his Father’s Day presents and left it at that. He claims that he made an effort to make my weekend memorable, but he’s upset because I discarded his gifts as a way to get back at him for it not going as planned.

People supported her.

– It’s important to have a conversation with him about how this Mother’s Day fell short of expectations. Express your disappointment that the day seemed to revolve around his own desires and what he found enjoyable. He abandoned you with children to handle who weren’t even yours, on a day that should be all about celebrating you, while he pursued his own desires. Scary-Cycle1508 / Reddit

– Who in their right mind invites their own friends over for a Mother’s Day bonfire? You extend an invitation to the Wife’s friends. It appears that your husband has difficulty recognizing the value of others beyond himself. livelylibrarian / Reddit

– It seems as though he already had a wonderful Father’s Day celebration, so he doesn’t require any additional gifts. On Father’s Day, I wish for you to indulge in a personal massage and enjoy a peaceful, leisurely walk. RememberCakeFarts / Reddit

– He didn’t put in any effort, and unfortunately, I have to tell you that things won’t improve. Guys like these never seem to change. And if you don’t believe me, feel free to find out for yourself.” beansonbeans4me / Reddit

– For Father’s Day, it’s important to create excitement around the fact that you have something extraordinary in store. Go all out. It’s important for him to be home at X time, prepared for whatever comes his way. Meanwhile, you’re also making plans for some much-needed adult time away from the little ones. Watching a film, receiving a relaxing message, and catching up over a cup of coffee with a friend. Something away from home.
And when that moment comes, you pass the baby to someone else, give your partner a quick kiss on the cheek, and say ‘See you in a few hours’ before leaving. After all, Father’s Day is a special occasion for fathers to bond and create lasting memories with their children. Miss***derpants on Reddit

– It seems that he has completely disengaged from this marriage. You should as well. no_desk_writer / Reddit

Marriage is a whirlwind of feelings. Through open communication, empathy, and a shared sense of love, even the most challenging situations can be resolved. We wish that in the upcoming Mother’s Day, she receives the gifts she desires and truly deserves.