A young man in his twenties recently took to Reddit to share his current relationship situation. He loves her very much, but there’s one thing that makes their relationship a little less perfect. The man discussed his girlfriend’s hygiene, expressing his concerns and having a conversation about it. However, the response from his partner is quite unusual, leaving the man curious about what he might be doing incorrectly in this situation and what others would do if they were in his position.

Right from the start, the man couldn’t help but notice his girlfriend’s unusual behavior. In his post, the 24-year-old shared his thoughts and expressed his uncertainty, pondering whether he might be unreasonable or wrong.

After that, he went on to share the backstory of the conflict with others. In his writing, a young man of 24 shared that he has been in a relationship with his girlfriend, who is 22 years old, for about 2 years. «I love her so much and think she is absolutely great. On our first date, I couldn’t help but notice that cleanliness wasn’t her top priority.»

The man was alarmed when they decided to have a snack together. He talked about how at the end of their date, they stopped to get a snack that they were going to enjoy at his house. Upon their arrival, she immediately began unpacking without taking a moment to wash her hands.

The man believes that this habit is negatively impacting their relationship.

He expressed surprise at the situation, suggesting that her cleanliness may have played a role. «I didn’t really take notice of it until she excitedly insisted that I try some of the charcuterie jelly she had. She showed me how it was done by casually dipping her finger into the jar and extending it towards me, inviting me to give it a try.»

The man’s health deteriorated significantly due to this situation. He wrote, «At that point, I started feeling a bit disgusted and made a lighthearted comment about experiencing the things we had touched earlier.» We were out and about, taking advantage of public transportation and immersing ourselves in the city. Although she appeared slightly embarrassed, she didn’t want to acknowledge that the situation was rather unpleasant. Nevertheless, she failed to clean her hands. It was at the beginning of our acquaintance.

In their relationship, things have already come a long way. As he continues his story, the man shares that to this day, he has never witnessed her using anything other than water to wash her hands. And even that requires me to ask multiple times. Throughout her day, she goes about her routine without taking the time to wash her hands, even after using the washroom. The user is extremely annoyed with this habit. He notices the absence of basic hygiene practices that seem to be a part of their everyday routine.

«She loves stumbling upon «hidden gems» during our walks, like forgotten toys, household items, and clothes, even if they seem a bit grubby. She seems to have a tendency to touch everything and anything without taking the time to wash her hands. In addition, she chooses to shower only twice a week and does not use soap during those times. She only bothers to wash her hair or cleanse her body when I personally take care of it for her, claiming that she finds it enjoyable.»

The man is sharing his concerns about the health and safety of himself and his partner. He proceeded to discuss a few issues that have been troubling him recently. Firstly, he has observed that his girlfriend has a tendency to prepare meals for him, which wouldn’t be a problem if it weren’t for some other actions. It seems that his girlfriend has a habit of casually dipping her fingers into jars and drinking straight from bottles, rather than using the appropriate utensils and cups. In addition, she tends to touch her face quite often, which can be somewhat unsettling. Finally, he brought up the fact that his girlfriend has a distinct smell that he finds unappealing. Now, let’s address the main issue at hand: she frequently experiences health issues.

Her take on discussions about hygiene is quite unique.

The man recognized that his girlfriend has a tendency to be sensitive and gets upset when she perceives any form of criticism. Thus, he takes care to approach the topic delicately when suggesting that his girlfriend should freshen up. «Eventually, I had enough when she began whining about feeling unwell yet again. I couldn’t help but wonder if her frequent colds and illnesses could be attributed to her lack of proper hygiene.»

And the reply was rather unusual. The original poster shared that she became very quiet, shed some tears, and now believes that she is being judged. She used to find it amusing and not let it bother her, but now it seems to be genuinely upsetting her. I’m feeling quite lost and burdened with guilt. However, I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong either.