Ladies, I really think this is the best marriage advice from a divorced woman you will ever have!

This woman was divorced after 7 years of marriage and here’s what she has to say:

1. Ladies, you should always look for the best in him.

Example: When he makes a mistake at work, focus on how dedicated and hardworking he is instead of the error itself. Highlight his efforts in trying to make things right.
Example: If he forgets to do a chore, remember the times he went out of his way to help you with something important.

2. You should have sex with him – more often. All the time, if necessary.

Example: Initiate intimate moments spontaneously, like after a nice dinner or when you have some alone time.
Example: Surprise him with romantic gestures, such as a relaxing massage that leads to more intimate moments.

3. Sometimes you must seek advice from older, wiser women who have been successful in their marriages. Sometimes, it is impossible to make good decisions (especially when you are emotional). And remember, seeking advice from your friends who are your age is not as good as advice from older women.

Example: If you’re struggling with a recurring argument, talk to your mother or an older aunt who has been married for many years and see how they handled similar issues.
Example: Join a women’s group at your community center or church where you can learn from the experiences of older married women.

4. Sometimes you should let him zonk out. And remember, your man is not ignoring you, they just have brain freeze moments.

Example: If he comes home tired and wants to watch TV, let him unwind without interruption.
Example: When he seems distant or distracted, understand it might be his way of processing stress rather than ignoring you.

5. NO, it is not your job to change him or fix him. We are all on a journey.

Example: Instead of trying to change his habits, accept them and work on finding compromises that suit both of you.
Example: Support his personal growth and be patient with his journey, just as you would want him to be with yours.

6. Make sure you tell him how great, strong, smart, manly he is – all the time (because they tend to forget).

Example: Compliment him on his problem-solving skills when he fixes something around the house.
Example: Tell him how much you appreciate his strength and determination when he accomplishes a difficult task.

7. Never forget or take for granted that your man chose you.

Example: Reflect on the reasons you fell in love and remind yourself why he chose you as his partner.
Example: Cherish the moments you share together and make an effort to create new, meaningful memories.

8. You should always laugh at his jokes (even if they are not funny).

Example: Show genuine amusement and appreciation for his attempts to make you laugh, reinforcing his efforts to keep things light-hearted.
Example: Join in the fun and add your own humor to the conversation, creating a joyful and relaxed atmosphere.

9. Let’s face it – we are not responsible for our reactions, no one else. We can’t blame him for everything, and we have to take full responsibility for our emotions and how we respond. Note: and so must he.

Example: If you get upset, take a moment to cool down and reflect on your feelings before reacting.
Example: Encourage open and honest communication where both of you can express your feelings without placing blame.

10. Be a comfort, be a kind and generous spirit when times demand it.

Example: Support him during tough times at work by being a listening ear and offering encouragement.
Example: Show kindness by doing small, thoughtful things for him, like preparing his favorite meal when he’s had a rough day.

11. You must stop complaining when he comes home. Let him relax.

Example: Greet him with a smile and a warm hug when he gets home, creating a welcoming environment.
Example: Save discussions about household issues for a designated time when both of you are relaxed and receptive.

12. You must always love him the way he needs, not the way you assume he needs. Be sensitive and ready to show him that you love him in the way he understands best.

Example: If he feels loved through acts of service, help him with his tasks or make him a special breakfast.
Example: If he values quality time, plan a date night or spend a quiet evening together without distractions.

13. Make yourself beautiful. The more feminine you act, the more you remind him that he is a man.

Example: Take care of your appearance and dress in a way that makes you feel confident and attractive.
Example: Embrace your femininity by engaging in activities that make you feel graceful and elegant.

14. You should always give him your time and attention when he needs it.

Example: Put away your phone or other distractions when he wants to talk or spend time with you.
Example: Show interest in his hobbies and passions, and make an effort to engage with him on those topics.

15. You should never talk about other men, even if they are fictional or cinematic.

Example: Avoid comparing him to other men, whether they are real or fictional characters.
Example: Focus on the positive qualities of your relationship and avoid bringing up past relationships or crushes.

16. Be willing to have him sexually. Let him know that his presence is appreciated, that you trust him fully.

Example: Initiate intimacy and express your desire for him, making him feel wanted and loved.
Example: Communicate openly about your sexual needs and desires to maintain a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.

17. This is also very important for you to remember – never read advice from strangers on the Internet. They probably don’t know you and will make you do stupid crap that will not be applicable or appropriate in your marriage….

Example: Seek advice from trusted sources, such as books, therapists, or close friends and family who know you well.
Example: Use discernment when reading online advice and tailor it to fit your unique relationship.

18. You must give him space. He needs time to find his new self.

Example: Encourage him to pursue his interests and hobbies independently, giving him the freedom to grow as an individual.
Example: Respect his need for alone time and personal space, understanding that it’s essential for his well-being.